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Women are driven to engage in intercourse just as men are

Men have a drive to obtain intercourse that we see throughout Nature. We observe the male of the species being motivated to mate with...
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Sexual Pleasure

Our biological motivation to enjoy arousal and orgasm

There is a precedent for female masturbation in the animal world. Some female mammals do masturbate but since they do not ejaculate it is...

Orgasm depends on a positive response to eroticism

You cannot teach someone to orgasm. We discover orgasm because we have the capability. Responsiveness relies on a person’s ability to identify with erotic...

Reproduction

The sexual anatomy involved in heterosexual intercourse

Men always approach sexual activity and orgasm with a focus on the penis: whether through intercourse, fellatio or masturbation. There is no debate over...

Women assume that they should orgasm with a lover

Prostitutes are more sexually experienced than most women. Yet even they admit that they do not orgasm with clients. A woman who claims to...

Emotional Bonding

Men enjoy penetration and thrusting more than orgasm

Everyone gets terribly emotional about insisting that women should orgasm with a lover and yet female orgasm serves no useful purpose at all. The...

Sexual Techniques

Regularity of intercourse relies on male responsiveness

One would expect the regularity of intercourse to depend partly upon a woman’s motivation. But Kinsey found the rates of sexual outlet (made up...

Proposing and planning sex sessions, providing sex talk

When a man has a new lover the novelty makes sex more exciting for a while but gradually he falls back to having intercourse...

Techniques for getting the most out of anal intercourse

Few homosexual men orgasm solely from penetration. The penis is always involved. The anus and the entrance (vestibule) to the vagina have some sensitivity....

Female Sexuality

Women’s arousal depends on a more indirect mechanism

Men are turned on as a direct consequence of their drive to penetrate (a female) and thrust until ejaculation. A woman lacks this drive....

Understanding what works: the clitoris versus the vagina

Regardless of gender, sexual activity that is aimed at achieving orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused primarily on the...

Male Sexuality

Heterosexual relationships involve mismatched sex drives

Men are naturally responsive. So no man should feel inadequate about ejaculating quickly. Men accept the misconception that women might be able to...

Misconceptions

Women orgasm from clitoral stimulation (cunnilingus)

Sexologists assume (as we all do) that women should orgasm in all the same scenarios that men do. These are (1) masturbation alone (the...

Identifying the erroneous assumptions about sexuality

We tend to assume (on the basis of erotic fiction) that women in real life: Have the exact same sexual needs that men have; ...

Women respond to real-world erotic triggers as men do

Men are aroused by nudity and sexual opportunities, so it is assumed that women are too. The fact that pornography is censored in every...

Similarities

Stimulation and a focus on eroticism continue until orgasm

Imagine you are a woman. Your partner asks you to masturbate him to orgasm. Each time you do this, you would notice that the...

Orgasm involves identifying with the penetrating male

Some women suggest that female arousal depends on emotional stimuli. I do not think I ever accepted this idea. But it is difficult to...

Differences

Only men are aroused by observing a partner’s genitals

My partner likes to take photographs of my genitalia while we are having sex. Note that I have no similar desire to photograph his...

Women may use behaviours to provide turn-ons for a lover

My first boyfriend was more than 6 years older than me. I was a virgin and he had plenty of sexual experience from one-night...