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Responsive women use fantasy to achieve arousal alone

Sexual activity is typically described in terms of physical stimulation. The idea that the brain needs to have an empathic response to eroticism is...
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Sexual Pleasure

Sexual pleasure: how responsive women reach orgasm

It is often assumed that every woman masturbates just as every man (96%) does. Yet there are no research findings to support this view....

Women do not masturbate as a substitute for intercourse

Male responsiveness declines very gradually from adolescence onwards. Few men masturbate regularly by the age of 50. At any age most men only masturbate...

Reproduction

Men pressure women to provide a response to intercourse

Only women are ever described as frigid (meaning cold or unloving). An unenthusiastic lover is a turn-off and causes a man to feel unappreciated....

Women substitute sexual behaviours for responsiveness

Many people are outraged by the suggestion that anyone might misrepresent women's sexuality or exaggerate female responsiveness. Yet in other areas of the human...

Emotional Bonding

Women mature sexually much later than men tend to

Women mature sexually much later than men do so a young woman is very unlikely to discover orgasm with a lover. Over time...

Sexual Techniques

Married men have sex more often than single men do

Despite the complaints, research indicates that married men have more sex than single men do. Men may look for other pleasures when they...

Sexual pleasuring techniques a man may enjoy

A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social...

Women’s need for affection drives regular relationship sex

While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism, men seldom appreciate the importance women place on affection. Sex is so much...

Female Sexuality

Relatively few women ever use a vibrator to masturbate

Sex toys are a useful addition to a couple’s sex play: to take the pressure off a man having an erection and to provide...

Female sexuality is defined by men and their fantasies

Men’s acute arousal ensures that they approach sex with a clear agenda. Women are not aroused, which is why they talk about emotional sensations....

Male Sexuality

Masturbation and fantasy require a creative imagination

Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are...

Misconceptions

Women experience arousal and orgasm as easily as men do

Kinsey noted that women who could masturbate to orgasm said they also had orgasms with a lover. This is contrary to my experience. I...

Women depend on a lover to stimulate them to orgasm

Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner’s orgasm. But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs...

Women can masturbate themselves to orgasm with a lover

Pornography shows women masturbating (or being masturbated by a lover). This self-stimulation by fingering around their glans never ends in orgasm. Women are shown...

Similarities

Orgasm is not the goal of sexual activity with a lover

Orgasm has become a key word in talking about sex. Certainly, the most important aspect of women’s participation in sex is whether they have...

Mental arousal must always precede physical stimulation

The only reason women are assumed to orgasm without ever being mentally aroused is because most women are unaware of what is involved in...

Differences

Male arousal is acute but female arousal is subconscious

When we look at how men orgasm, it is clear that a man must have an erection before he can attempt orgasm. Only when...

The penis is an external organ but the clitoris is internal

The clitoris is the equivalent organ to the penis. They both develop from the genital tubercle in the foetus. The suggestion is that the...