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Sexuality & techniques
A modern interpretation of Kinsey’s work on male and female sexuality. Plus how couples can make their sex life even better by understanding men and women’s different sexual and emotional needs.
Women’s need for affection drives regular relationship sex
While women often fail to appreciate the importance men place on eroticism, men seldom appreciate the importance women place on affection.
Sex is so much...
Some men expect women to make sex exciting for them
Films use sound effects to indicate a couple having sex off-screen: a regular banging (of a bed against a wall) and the woman’s vocal...
Women’s talk of orgasm does not lead to more sex for men
Ironically (because only male responsiveness declines with age) women are often more sexually active when younger. Once a woman has children, she is much...
Showing sexual initiative and providing erotic feedback
Doesn’t anyone else find it odd (and very convenient!) that modern advice on female orgasm just so happens to reflect almost exactly how women’s...
Married men have sex more often than single men do
Despite the complaints, research indicates that married men have more sex than single men do. Men may look for other pleasures when they...
A woman may offer intercourse when she feels respected
After fifty years of marriage one woman told me she had never been interested in men. Men tend to seek women out. Women don’t...
Regularity of intercourse relies on male responsiveness
One would expect the regularity of intercourse to depend partly upon a woman’s motivation. But Kinsey found the rates of sexual outlet (made up...
Proposing and planning sex sessions, providing sex talk
When a man has a new lover the novelty makes sex more exciting for a while but gradually he falls back to having intercourse...
Sexual techniques and exploring sex play with a lover
Men do not make ideal lovers of women. Not only do they orgasm easily but men rarely appreciate what drives women emotionally or how...
Women are aroused by fantasy, not real-world turn-ons
Men are aroused by thinking about sexual activity with someone they find attractive. Only two thirds (69%) of women ever have erotic fantasies. The...
Women’s arousal depends on a more indirect mechanism
Men are turned on as a direct consequence of their drive to penetrate (a female) and thrust until ejaculation. A woman lacks this drive....
Female arousal is more deeply buried in the subconscious
Sexual phenomena (such as masturbation or gay sex) tend to be shocking and alien until we discover we enjoy them. Similarly once we experience...
Understanding what works: erotic versus emotional stimuli
If men were attracted to responsive women, presumably they would hope for a woman who could orgasm within say 5 seconds of being stimulated....
Relatively few women ever use a vibrator to masturbate
Sex toys are a useful addition to a couple’s sex play: to take the pressure off a man having an erection and to provide...
The G-spot explains the orgasms women think they have
Inexperienced women explore various parts of their body before discovering orgasm but most women (84%) masturbate by stimulating the clitoris. Yet some women today...
Only some women think they orgasm through intercourse
When we talk about consensual sex who exactly is consenting and what are they consenting to? Women may consent to intercourse but consent...
Understanding what works: the clitoris versus the vagina
Regardless of gender, sexual activity that is aimed at achieving orgasm involves continuous rhythmic movements of the whole body focused primarily on the...
Bisexuality indicates an ambivalence over a lover’s gender
Although men have varying levels of sex drive (which affect the frequency with which they want sex), once a man engages in specific genital...
Female sexuality involves attracting male sexual attention
Any discussion of female sexuality is usually aimed at providing turn-ons for men rather than being a realistic description of how women truly orgasm....
Men’s sexual knowledge is acquired from pornography
Today we have no official account of human sexuality. So men’s sexual knowledge of how women enjoy sexual pleasure (how women are assumed to...
Female sexuality is defined by men and their fantasies
Men’s acute arousal ensures that they approach sex with a clear agenda. Women are not aroused, which is why they talk about emotional sensations....
Understanding women’s sexual and emotional needs
Sadly, researchers are often just as impressed with far-fetched accounts of female orgasm as the general public. Academics debate pure conjecture such as female...
Male adolescence: differentiating orgasm from ejaculation
For sexually precocious boys, half have an orgasm by the age of 7 and two-thirds by the age of 12. But until they start...
Understanding men’s sexual and emotional needs
Male masturbation frequencies vary significantly, indicating not only a range in responsiveness, but also the different conscious choices men make over how they...
Sex information must explain real women’s behaviours
The young tend to be the most sexually active. So mature couples with decades of experience often assume that young people know more about...
Sexology should present research not popular beliefs
Why is sexual pleasure taboo? Probably because of the associated exploitation (of women by men) and deceit (perpetrated by women on men). Few...
Techniques for getting the most out of anal intercourse
Few homosexual men orgasm solely from penetration. The penis is always involved. The anus and the entrance (vestibule) to the vagina have some sensitivity....
Sexual pleasuring techniques a man may enjoy
A woman who lies fairly inert during sexual pleasuring, communicates a lack of cooperation and causes a man to feel sexually unappreciated. Both social...
Sexual pleasuring techniques a woman may enjoy
There are no female equivalents to the turn-ons that motivate men sexually. Women often prefer intercourse in the dark and they do...
Bringing variety of situation and technique to intercourse
Although intercourse provides little internal sensation, a woman feels some external pressure. When a man thrusts deeply the base of his penis may...
Men may get more sex if they are willing to be realistic
Only some men like to offer their partners any form of foreplay. Other men (probably the majority) prefer to head straight for the joys...
Masturbation and fantasy require a creative imagination
Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are...
Many men prefer intercourse and never offer any foreplay
The men with the highest overall orgasm frequencies throughout their lives are the less educated (those who are not educated beyond high school).
Some men...
Some men hope that sexual pleasuring can be mutual
Society often implies that sex (like smoking and drinking) is a sign of maturity and worldliness. Films portray prostitutes as beautiful and classy young...
The conscious and subconscious components of sexuality
Human sexuality has biological, emotional and intellectual components.
The biological aspects are innate (we are born that way) and beyond our conscious control. Males of...
Heterosexual relationships involve mismatched sex drives
Men are naturally responsive. So no man should feel inadequate about ejaculating quickly. Men accept the misconception that women might be able to...
Masturbation and fantasy require a creative imagination
Masturbation is least common among less educated males (89%). More men who are high school educated (95%) and who are college educated (96%) are...
Boys who are adolescent first have the highest sex drive
For practical purposes male adolescence is assumed to coincide with a boy’s first ejaculation. Boys who become adolescent first (before 12 years of age)...
Age is the foremost factor affecting male responsiveness
Factors that affect men’s orgasm frequencies include their age, the age at which they reached adolescence as well as their level of education.
Age is...
We all carry the potential to be homosexual in our genes
Women typically get on well with homosexual men. Gay men often have the social skills that women appreciate but straight men tend to lack....
The symbiotic relationship between men and women
When living in an environment devoid of sexual stimuli (such as one without women) most men cease all forms of sexual activity. For example,...
The male arousal cycle from erection to ejaculation
Sensations of fear, apprehension, shock or surprise all give rise to nervous system responses that have characteristics in common with arousal. Some young boys...