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Sexual response
Sexual response is primarily defined by the responsiveness experienced by individuals of both sexes. A responsive person’s brain responds to specific stimuli of an erotic nature causing blood to flow to the genitals. Orgasm is achieved by massaging the erectile sex organ (only once tumescent). Sexual response also includes the sex drive that only men experience.
The penis is an external organ but the clitoris is internal
The clitoris is the equivalent organ to the penis. They both develop from the genital tubercle in the foetus. The suggestion is that the...
Women are sexually passive due to lack of erotic arousal
Sexual reproduction even in plants (pollination) involves pollen being transferred (by wind or bees, for example) from the male reproductive part (the anther, part...
Only men are aroused in anticipation of sexual activity
Off the coast of France, at Cannes, there is an island where people are permitted to bathe nude. Nude bathing is popular in France,...
Only men are aroused by observing a partner’s genitals
My partner likes to take photographs of my genitalia while we are having sex. Note that I have no similar desire to photograph his...
Men obtain an optimal sexual release from penetrative sex
Sex drive has been defined in terms of the proactive role that men have in obtaining intercourse. Male sex drive is apparent from the...
Orgasm is a vital aspect of male reproductive function
When I had intercourse for the first time (as a virgin) I was shocked that I felt no internal physical sensation of any kind....
Differences between male and female responsiveness
The differences between male and female responsiveness include:
Orgasm is a vital aspect of male reproduction function;
Men obtain an optimal sexual release from...
Both sexes enjoy emotional rewards from sexual intimacy
Whenever a man and a woman share physical intimacy, the man’s arousal is very evident. A man’s erection gives visual evidence, not only that...
Male and female sexuality both contribute to reproduction
When I started researching my sexuality, I knew how to masturbate to orgasm so I wanted to know how women achieved the orgasms with...
Orgasm is not the goal of sexual activity with a lover
Orgasm has become a key word in talking about sex. Certainly, the most important aspect of women’s participation in sex is whether they have...
Orgasm comes at the end of activity intended to achieve it
I used my own experience of sexual activity with a lover to draw conclusions about women’s use of behaviours in responding to sexual scenarios...
Stimulation and a focus on eroticism continue until orgasm
Imagine you are a woman. Your partner asks you to masturbate him to orgasm. Each time you do this, you would notice that the...
Stimulation that leads to orgasm is applied instinctively
We all assume we already know everything there is to know about sex and sexuality. Even though we have never had a sex education...
Orgasm is achieved by massaging the corpora cavernosa
As part of my research, I came across references to the corpora cavernosa. These are cylindrical structures within the shaft of the penis that...
The same organ, the erectile phallus, is involved in orgasm
The erectile organs (penis and clitoris) develop from the same anatomy in the foetus called the genital tubercle. The penis and clitoris have crura...
Orgasm involves identifying with the penetrating male
Some women suggest that female arousal depends on emotional stimuli. I do not think I ever accepted this idea. But it is difficult to...
Orgasm is a one-off release followed by a recovery period
With all the completely insane and goofy explanations, I get from women on the internet, it is tempting to believe that, somewhere, there must...
The mind responds to erotic stimuli: concepts or objects
No boy reaches puberty and consciously decides to be aroused by girls. It just happens. If it doesn’t, he may have a very low...
Mental arousal must always precede physical stimulation
The only reason women are assumed to orgasm without ever being mentally aroused is because most women are unaware of what is involved in...
Similarities between male and female responsiveness
The similarities between male and female responsiveness include:
Mental arousal must always precede physical stimulation;
The mind responds to erotic stimuli: concepts or objects;
...
Women depend on a lover to stimulate them to orgasm
Everyone applauds the idea that a man should care about his partner’s orgasm. But orgasm is an instinctive response to eroticism that occurs...
The function of foreplay is to assist with female arousal
Men are proactive lovers because of their arousal. Men enjoy exploring women’s bodies because it is arousing for them. Foreplay existed well before any...
Women are proactive lovers due to their own arousal
We often hear sex educators blaming men for ignoring women’s presumed sexual needs. But why are women so incapable of obtaining their own sexual...
Women are constantly aroused and orgasmic with a lover
People are amazed when I question the orgasms actresses are portrayed as having in pornography. They cannot believe that anyone would doubt the fiction....
Women orgasm from clitoral stimulation (cunnilingus)
Sexologists assume (as we all do) that women should orgasm in all the same scenarios that men do. These are (1) masturbation alone (the...
Women orgasm from vaginal stimulation (intercourse)
Kinsey explained that the vagina evolved from primitive egg ducts, which lack any sensitivity (in common with other internal organs of the body). The...
Women can masturbate themselves to orgasm with a lover
Pornography shows women masturbating (or being masturbated by a lover). This self-stimulation by fingering around their glans never ends in orgasm. Women are shown...
Women masturbate as commonly and as frequently as men
Most men masturbate at least when they are adolescent so they assume that women must have a similar experience. Men never seem to notice...
Women are driven to engage in intercourse just as men are
Men have a drive to obtain intercourse that we see throughout Nature. We observe the male of the species being motivated to mate with...
Women experience arousal and orgasm as easily as men do
Kinsey noted that women who could masturbate to orgasm said they also had orgasms with a lover. This is contrary to my experience. I...
Women respond to real-world erotic triggers as men do
Men are aroused by nudity and sexual opportunities, so it is assumed that women are too. The fact that pornography is censored in every...
Women have the exact same sexual needs that men have
Sex research appears to indicate that many women orgasm both alone and with a lover. But all of this research is flawed because there...
Identifying the erroneous assumptions about sexuality
We tend to assume (on the basis of erotic fiction) that women in real life:
Have the exact same sexual needs that men have;
...
An evidence-based approach to researching sexuality
I am documenting my research approach, which is different to that taken by other researchers. I have not had a budget, colleagues or the...
Sexologists need to challenge what they are told
On an on-going basis, I ask sexologists, medical professionals, sex workers, gay men, lesbians, heterosexuals and anyone else, who might be assumed to be...
Women may use behaviours to provide turn-ons for a lover
My first boyfriend was more than 6 years older than me. I was a virgin and he had plenty of sexual experience from one-night...
Some men want a lover to provide a response to intercourse
The basic male sexual function is instinctive. It is satisfied relatively easily by intercourse. Kinsey concluded that the vast majority of men (including the...
Women offer sex as an emotional bonding mechanism
A woman may believe that she has orgasms with her lover. But if she is unwilling to have the same experience with an attractive...
For women, sexual attraction does not include erotic arousal
Women are attractive to men because their bodies cause intense male arousal. Women are attracted to other women because female bodies are more sensual...
Responsive women use surreal fantasy to generate arousal
Before I started my research, I hadn’t appreciated that my experience was so unusual. Reading Hite’s work in my early twenties, reassured me that...
Male arousal is acute but female arousal is subconscious
When we look at how men orgasm, it is clear that a man must have an erection before he can attempt orgasm. Only when...